John here.
So, 2012 is upon us. I haven't made any New Year's resolutions in ages; I'm usually in too much of a post-Christmas malaise to do so. However, this year, there will be a few resolutions.
1) I will sleep with someone other than Claire (and enjoy it)
2) Claire will sleep with another woman.
3) I/we will have a threesome (or upwards).
Ambitious. Also logistically challenging. About the only one I'm truly confident that it will happen is number 2. Resolution number 3 is one of those things that is great on paper (and greater still inside my head, trust me), but isn't something that can just, you know, happen.
"But, how did all this come to be?", I conveniently imagine you are asking. Well, since you asked, let me begin with a scene-setting preamble....
Claire and I have discussed the idea of an "open relationship" way back in the first year of our marriage. We both decided back then that it wasn't something we were up for at that point, but would keep an open mind on it. That was probably a good decision; making our marriage work hasn't always been easy. But we have stuck at it, and grown closer together over the years. After ten years, our marriage is a happy one, and this is in no small part due to sex.
To put it bluntly, we fuck like rabbits.
In terms of regularity, I think we are better than most bus services. I think we generally have sex maybe 1.5 times a day, on average We have sex most days, and often twice or more; once in the morning, once at night. Sometimes we go without; sometimes we've argued, or are ill, or aunt flo is visitng, or there is something really good on TV. But we are just as likely to have disgruntled sex, ill sex, messy sex, or sex in front of Firefly.
Both of our sex drives are high, and we find each other very attractive. And, we are in love. That really helps. We've always been pretty kinky as well, and over the years we've tried to keep things nice and spicy by trying new things. I tend to have the kinkier desires, but Claire has some truly filthy mastabatory fantasies from time to time too, which I'm sure she'll detail in future posts.
One key to the good marriage (and the good sex life) we enjoy is good communication, and it was during one of our blissed-out post-coital chats in mid-2011 that the subject of sleeping with other people was broached again. I can't actually remember who brought it up, though I suspect it may have been me. We talked it over, and decided we were in a place where we could give this a go. We talked about boundaries, agreed we needed to keep talking to each other, agreed to keep being be honest about our feelings, and to not be ashamed or guilty that we find other people attractive. We both (naievely?) think we can deal with the jealousy, and our mutual trust and respect is high.
So, here we are. It's January 2012, and my wife and I have signed up for a whole bunch of dating sites, and are actively on the lookout for nookie. Who will get laid first? (Claire. I bet you absolutely anything it will be Claire.) How will it all work out? And will I be able to tick off these New Year's resolutions as they are fulfilled, or are they destined to be the metaphorical equivalent of a "going-to-the-gym" routine that peters out in mid January?
Only time will tell!
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